Category Archives: 20-somethings can relate

What I’ve learned about trying to earn love

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I now see that a lot of my neuroses has been rooted in insecurity and fear. Not feeling secure and feeling that the burden of my safety, my life happenings, my success, my joy, everything – weighed solely on my shoulders with no other help or guidance. And all of it was life or death.

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The Practice

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Growing up, I’ve always felt like I had to change for the people in my life – myself included – to become more this or more that in order to fit in and just feel like I belonged somewhere. From family to friends, I rarely felt good enough as is.

I’m not sure if this is something that everyone experiences while growing up or if I subconsciously sought it out and manifested it into my life, but I was stuck in a loop of always trying to please everyone else. In the process of rearranging yourself to other people’s needs, it’s easy to lose sight of yourself.

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My New Year Ritual: Reflect and Correct

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Original IG post: @sikadee

Happy New Year! Wow, December was a busy month for me. Sorry, I’ve been MIA for a while but I’m happy to be back.

The end of the year and the beginning of a new year is always a reflective time for me. This year I was doing a lot of last-minute rushing around but I did finally get the chance to do what I like to call “my reflections and corrections” last Monday since offices were closed for New Year’s Day.

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Freeing yourself from unresolved feelings

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It’s not uncommon to be walking around and engaging in everyday life with various unresolved feelings lying dormant. We have experiences that affect us in different ways and when left unaddressed, they set up tent and make a nice little home in our subconscious; just waiting for a chance – a similar situation or a quiet moment – to remind us of their existence.

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The Beauty of Blankness

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As I sit in my room typing this, I’m overwhelmed by all of the clutter in my room that I’ve been trying to sort out over the past year. By “trying to” I mean I’ve made half-ass attempts to make a plan to clean up and organize – but I generally give up before even really trying. I leave it to the ever elusive tomorrow. Just thinking about it stresses me out.

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If you believe yourself unfortunate
because you have loved and lost,
perish the thought.

One who has truly loved can never lose entirely.

Love is whimsical & temperamental.
Its nature is ephemeral & transitory

It comes when it pleases and goes away
without warning.

Accept and enjoy it while it remains,
but spend no time worrying about its
departure.

Worry will never bring it back.

– Napoleon Hill, Think & Grow Rich

(photo source: visual-poetry.tumblr.com)

Love is whimsical

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On Overcoming Comparison

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“Managing everyone’s expectations is exhausting.”

This sentiment came to me at a random point yesterday while in my room. I can’t even pinpoint what happened that led to this thought but I guess it’s just a thought that tends to linger silently in the background. Like when the air conditioner is on but you don’t notice that it was making a sound until it turns off.

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Hello 24 – Flexibility, Rock bottom, and welcoming the new

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Change comes whether you’re ready for it or not.

I feel like life has been repeatedly giving me lessons in change and flexibility. Both recently and just throughout my life in general. For some reason life wants me to get comfortable with the idea that I don’t have ownership or control over everything despite my desire to.

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Leaving the door cracked

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“If I’m not the one for you, you gotta stop holding me the way you do.”
– Adele, Water under the bridge

Love is an amazing thing. It’s said to have the ability to change our brain chemistry. We get hooked on love like a drug addict and latch on to our lover for dear life. Like we need them more than food, water, and air. They become our source of happiness and meaning.

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