Conviction is very very important because you are alone in reality, you are alone in life and it is a beautiful place to be if you make peace with yourself. If you have a good relationship with yourself theres so much to find. We have so many possibilities. We actually don’t spend enough time with ourselves. And many times we fall into the trap to do things so that other people have a perception of who we are.
When you do things with conviction even failure is very bearable. We’re all afraid of failure but if you fail trying to impress someone else or do it for others then it’s terrible, the failure. It wasn’t even really maybe what you wanted to do! But when you fail with conviction, it’s bearable. And at the end of the day you can lie and BS your way through life but… you’re going to end up alone one way or another. We have to make peace with this.
You can have a lot of love but the mystery of life, to me, is the relationship with you and you. As long as you need the others to feel comfortable, you will always suffer from anxiety. And conviction is that place where even if you make a mistake, you are at peace WHILE you make that mistake. And mistakes sometimes are the greatest gifts.”
– Salma Hayek Pinault, “Making Peace With Yourself”, Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations
Appreciation occurs when we begin to realize what we have been gifted with, and loving kindness reconnects us to others in a win-win attitude. We start to focus on positive thoughts and perceptions and, for a while, we let go of our fearful and anxious brain pattern. In fact, every action we engage in can become a daily meditation, a slowing-down and an appreciation of life. It seems so simple, in some ways, that it’s almost embarrassing to study it.
We need only remember when we were children who gazed at the sky and the drifting clouds. There was no notion of time nor any guilt for ‘wasting’ it. Time and guilt are concepts we learn about much later in life.”
– Dr. Patrizia Collard, The Little Book of Mindfulness
I think we need to get away from this model of success porn. That success is sexy and perfect! It’s an image of success that men have put on us, in a way. It can’t be that the only way that you can show up to a professional situation is if you spend four hours getting ready that morning. Men don’t have to do that! That is not equality. That you have to pay $300 for a glam squad to get you suitable for public consumption is garbage! And we have to get away from it.”
– Jenn Romolini on Why You Should Embrace Being Awkward AF In The Workplace
“Let it go, let it leave, let it happen. Nothing in this world was promised or belonged to you anyway.”
– Rupi Kaur, All You Own Is Yourself
Keep Showing Up.
“It feels like work because it’s going to be work. If you and I move forward together it’s – It’s harder to love somebody than to walk away from them.
And this is messy and scary and – God! It scares the life out of me.”
– Amelia to Hunt, Grey’s Anatomy
Episode 12:21 “You’re gonna Need Someone on Your Side”
“People get scared when you try to do something, especially when it looks like you’re succeeding. People do not get scared when you’re failing. It calms them.
… but when you’re winning it makes them feel like they’re losing, or worse yet, that maybe they should’ve tried to something too but now it’s too late. And since they didn’t, they want to stop you.
You can’t let them.”
– Mindy Kaling, Why Not Me?
The other day my tumblr queue posted a quote: “Embrace the current season of your life” and that is my focus for today. It’s actually been my focus for a while now but also today specifically. (speaking of tumblr, my homepage is on fleek today haha)
“Embrace the current season of your life.”
“If I’ve learned anything in life it’s that sometimes things get in your path and you have a choice. you can either smash right into them or you can adjust and move around. But you have to do one or the other in order to move forward.”
– Lily to Serena, “Woman on the Verge” Season 1 Episode 17
So I got Amy Poehler’s new book, Yes Please for Christmas (as I incessantly requested) and the book is awesome! I love learning about the winding life journey of one of my favorite comedians. She also has some great tokens of wisdom sprinkled throughout the book which I am always appreciative of. Here’s one great piece of advice from a difficult situation she experienced. Her raw honesty leading up to this quote only makes it even more powerful.
“Apologies have nothing to do with you.
They are balloons in the sky.
They may never land.
They may even choke a bird.”
– “Say whatever you want” (p.76)
Yes Please by Amy Poehler